I think in your post you miss the real point: being raped is the only thing that can happen to a woman to make her interesting.

Like so many comic book females, being raped is the only real motivation many of these women have to become heroes. Because, again, that's really all a woman is good for. Duh.

But all of that aside, it is a travesty. There's two examples that come to mind of healthy queer relationships in comics (my field of obsession), and both of those are sometimes neglected or ignored depending on who the writer is.